Burn That Bridge, Baby!

I had been told that it’s a bad idea to burn bridges. As in a reeeeeeeally bad idea , because, what the heck …. where do you go when things go bad on that Side-of-Green? You know that saying, 'It’s always greener on the other side of the bridge?',  well, if you cross the bridge then burn it, and things go bad, we’re told we can always ‘go back’ across the bridge, so we’re advised to desist from burning it.

I don’t dish out advice, I write of my experiences, and in my experience it’s better to burn the bridge. I wish I’d never ever heard of that particular piece of mis-advice because leaving a bridge standing to your past lets some of the worst demons cross over after you. Nothing good comes from the past if we have already decided to cross a bridge. You see, crossing a bridge in the first place means that you’ve come to a definite decision to firmly put an aspect of your life aside and begin on another.

Burn that bridge, Baby, and you know what, I’ll help you by giving you the gasoline and zippo lighter.

Burn that bridge so that the reek that you left on the other side never comes back to haunt you, ever, so that rats don’t scuttle over the bridge, bringing disease, or snakes don’t go slithering across the bridge to bring you cold fear and bite you, filling you with venom and poisoning your new life when you’re least expecting it.

Baby, BURN IT.

 …. and watch it burn so that self-doubts, second guessing, apprehension, anxiety, regrets, what if’s, qualms, skeptical friends, the heat haters - (people who can't take the heat and hate it when you can, gracefully), their kinsfolk and relatives Can't. Cross. Over.  Burn that Bridge so that nothing from the other side will  EVER COME back at you, irritating the peace out of you.

..if you ever had to choose between two lovers, I honestly hope you choose the second one and dumped the first, because if you loved the first, you wouldn’t have noticed the second… Does that make an irrational mad sense?

APPLY the same principal to the choice of crossing over. If you choose to cross and go over to the other side, don’t cross back to side A.

Here are some considerations:

It’s bad Here.

The moment you lifted your head and looked up and had time to ‘observe’ the other side, then you were not entirely satisfied with where you were at.   A guy, let me tell you a simple truth, if you’re busy on this side, you will be happy busy. Happy doing what you love, and busy loving what you do. You’re in your zone, or flow, in that place that joggers call the easy flow rhythm.,. you’re not just ‘going with the flow’ you ARE the FLOW!  Your strides are even, your breathing moderated and you’re listening to the music in your iPod and flying over ground. You don’t have time for the cars zooming past you, for the helicopter that’s flying too close to the ground, for the dog barking in that compound because it’s behind a fence…your world is the music, your feet pounding the pavement, your heart rate and the simple joy of jogging.

Mebbe jogging isn’t your thing. Fine. Choose Biking. Or Reading. Or Dancing. Or working as a Dolphin trainer. Point being: When you’re in your zone, you’re the King or Queen in Charge Of The Flow.

But if you’re not happy, your mind will wander constantly into the land of What If’s.

You’ll begin by peering over to ‘the other side’, begin dreaming, visualizing, envisaging and negotiating with your other selves about the ramifications of crossing over, and if you’re anything like me, you will cross over, come hook or crook.

And when you eventually decide to cross over and stay on TOS (THE OTHER SIDE), permanently, take a long minute to go back and burn that bridge.

See, burning bridges does a remarkable thing.

It gets rid of Mr. Justin Case. Snap.

You deal with that Lawyer dude with that ONE burning action.

Dude.

You DON’T NEED SELF DOUBT. It’s severely debilitating and it will not help you - at all  - in your new endeavors. PLUS, having a standing bridge is inviting Justin Case to stroll across with the rats and snakes. He will KEEP bringing his suits across to camp on TOS. You don’t want him in TOS.

Nope. SMH.

You don’t.

Did you say you will keep sentries at the bridge?…. remember that we’re in 2014 where Bribery Rules. Justin Case will bribe your guards and swagger over that bridge whistling a tune and probably, -  worse, catch you off guard like squish ---à knife in the back, or ‘rat-a-tat-tat-tat’ sniper fire because, well, Justin Case hates loosing.

I’m talking from experience.

You don’t need his kind  on TOS.

Burning bridges shouts out several positive statement, one which is to light the way, and the other a warning, after all, fire draws attention but it also serves as a warning – so, your bridge burning will make a bold statement, it ensures you make a stand and plant a flag on your side, it reeks of determination, it also sends a clear message of ‘don’t mess with me’.

Make a bold statement and gather your Courage. Listen to yourself – body, spirit and soul.

Gotta GO? Then GO!

Failure? What’s that? By crossing you’ve erased fear of failure, you’re on a ‘do or die mission’. Secondly, if you DO flop, (which will happen, either with exhaustion or happiness), you’ll FLOP ON THE SIDE YOU’RE ON. Why don’t people get that? You’re flopping on a higher level. You’re flopping and lying down on greener grass!

Don’t leave the bridge up.

Burn that bridge Baby, and moreover, watch it burn!

Nyakio J. Munyinyi for the XpenSieve Report© 2014

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